I want to talk about Anna Duggar. Everyone is laughing about Josh Duggar being on Ashley Madison, but I want to direct it to Anna. Anna is in the very worst position she could possibly be in right now. She was crippled by her parents by not getting an education, having no work experience, or life experience for that matter, and then shackled to this loser. Yes his family is famous and yes they have money. But she was taught that her sole purpose in life and the most meaningful thing she could do was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife and mother. Anna Duggar did that. She followed the rules that were imposed on her and this is what she got in reward. A husband who molested his own sisters, but that he was also unfaithful to her in the very most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her “duties” of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standards that men set for her to be chaste and Godly and in return the “man” who demanded this from her sought out women who were the opposite. “Be this” they told her. She was. It wasn’t enough.
It seems men are born with power and we must teach our daughters that they do not have to be beholden to men. They do not have to marry a man that their father deems “acceptable” or to stay married to a man who proves himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate your girls, give them the tools they need to survive on their own. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna right now. But he isn’t. He should be quaking in far that his house will fall down around him.
Anna you don’t deserve this and your children don’t deserve it. you are strong and you are capable I will respect any decision you make but for your sake I hope you leave.
4 comments:
MsN:
I really like the point you make about Anna having NO real ":marketable" skills.
You have to have SOMETHING going for you thee days.
It's not like when Mom (or any other wife) "ran the household", which in many cases could become a fairly insurmountable task some weeks.
Those days, a college degree wasn't required to find a decent job for a man OR a woman.
And it certainly is a farther cry from WAY back when the woman worked alongside her husband (pioneer farming come to mind).
ANYONE in today's society HAS to have some trait or ability that allows them to be a worthwhile hire for someone else.
And that means you need to KNOW stuff...lots of stuff.
The way society works today, it becomes too easy to do nothing...(and many times get away with it), but to what end?
I agree...there is NO substitute for ANY form of EDUCATION.
Very good post.
Stay safe down there, dear.
Just to add another point: The very fact that Anna was the kind of wife she was expected to be probably contributed in Josh's subconscious to the allure of women that drastically broke the mold. The less commitment, the better.
The Pastor I left my church about had this kind of thing too- extending "wives should be submissive " to wives and mothers should be seen and not heard, almost. Maybe that's practicable in a perfect world, but it ain't. My theory has been that the marriage covenant includes wives respecting the husband, and the hubby loving the wife sacrificially. If he can't do this then the woman should be able to say the covenant has been breached, just as surely as if by infidelity.
In the end, your premise is rock-solid- if you only educate your daughter to be a submissive wife, you haven't done your job by half.
It is my opinion that the men in the Duggar family are misogynists. Instead of asking why is Anna staying the real question should be why did he act the way he did toward her and the children.
Good points. I know she is probably getting all sorts of advice from both sides of the families. I have a feeling she will stay though. So many women who are not religious or grew up like Anna stay too. They stay and look the other way and even smile through the pain of lies and betrayal. UGH!
Blessings, Joanne
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