Oddly enough, people with good judgment are not usually considered judgmental. Judgmental is a negative word to describe someone who often rushes to judgment without reason.
The adjective judgmental describes someone who forms lots of opinions — usually harsh or critical ones — about lots of people. Judgmental types are not open-minded or easygoing. Judgmental has the word judge at its root, which itself is from the Latin word judicem, which also means "to judge." Judgemental (with an extra "e") is considered a legitimate variant spelling of judgmental
Why are people judgmental? Human nature cannot be denied. While good manners might prevent you from verbalizing your opinion, your mind instantly forms a judgment.
Everyone forms their judgments according to their life experiences. No matter how much you try, there are times you will make judgments. People like to think they are not “judging a book by its cover” but first impressions always bring about a judgment. You do it with out even knowing you are doing it. Children often mirror their parents opinions and judge accordingly. Some times if you over hear a conversation that has inaccurate information, you will judge the speaker as ignorant of the fact. I am judgmental of things no matter how hard I try to be fair. Some times it comes from being jealous. For instance a friend gets a new car. Or a new house.
The worst though are the ones who judge people who are less fortunate. They assume they are all, lazy, welfare, illiterate, drug users, white trash, alcoholics, having illegitimate children to get more monies, laying around trying to beat the system. I am sure there are those folks out there. In fact I know there are. But please don’t use that brush to paint everyone down on their luck as a loser.
6 comments:
<sM:
I would say I tend to be more "critical" than judgmental.
(unless people give me a good reason to BE judgmental).
First impressions are what last the longest, and people do make up their minds based a lot on such things.
I've BEEN one of those "less fortunate" growing up - Mom & Dad had a rough time with one child in tow, BUT...they did what they HAD to do, and it wasn't having a hand out for the government )or anyone else) to help them.
THEY became responsible, self-reliant, and if a relative DID toss a few bucks their way, they made sure to PAY IT BACK when things got better.
Few people seem to want to go that far theser days.
Good call.
Stay safe down there.
There is a lady here in town who is fighting cancer, and has some mental issues. She is on SNAP and I feel very deserving of it. Also there is a mother of 3 boys who has no heat, very little food, but she has a job. The job is just not enough to take proper care of her boys. She left an abusive marriage. All I have seen on facebook and emails are very vicious and negative images and statements about food stamp users. I know this is just not the case in all situations. Food Stamps and the Food Pantry are life lines to many.
MsN:
In today's society, I never doubt for a moment that SNAP, WIC, and every other program (close to a hundred) that are there to assist THOSE-IN-NEED...are worth the cost.
I'd much rather see the private sector do more, but the government doesn't want to allow that.
What bothers me to NO end are all those I see that don't NEED these programs, but are too damn lazy to get off their butts and DO something productive.
That certainly is NO way to raise a family. but it WILL ensure another generation of dependency.
Back where I come from...we used to call that FRAUD.
It's the bad folks that ruin it for everyone else...and food stamps (sadly) are no exception.
Stay safe down there.
There are so many that abuse these programs. Back in the day, family helped out family. Sadly this is no longer the case. It is a shame that a few can ruin it for those with a real need. It makes it hard for those people with pride to accept help when it has such a bad connotation. You feel if you get SNAP or any other help, you are labeled as lazy, etc. We are like minded Bobby G. I call it fraud too. I would like to see more people prosecuted. The whole thing just makes me sad.
Our church takes part every week in giving out food to those in need and all it takes is a hand shake and a willingness to talk with a person and suddenly all that judgement on both sides goes away.
Great post.
Blessings, Joanne
JOanne:
My church that I was treasurer at back in Philly used to box up food items and then take them out to the seniors and shut-ins EVERY Christmas...and sing carols for them out front of their houses or apartments.
It really meant something to them, too.
You could tell on their faces.
I miss those things.
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