Wednesday, August 31, 2011

WE are in trouble:

The population of this country is 300 million.

160 million are retired.

That leaves 140 million to do the work.

There are 85 million in school.

Which leaves 55 million to do the work.

Of this there are 35 million employed by the federal government.

Leaving 20 million to do the work.

2.8 million are in the armed forces preoccupied with killing TERRORISTS !!

Which leaves 17.2 million to do the work.

Take from that total the 15.8 million people who work for state and city Governments. And that leaves 1.4 million to do the work.

At any given time there are 188,000 people in hospitals.

Leaving
1,212,000 to do the work.

Now, there are 1,211,998 people in prisons.

That leaves just two people to do the work.

You and me.

And there you are,

Sitting on your a$$,

At your computer, reading jokes..

Nice. Real nice

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Sleep Deprived

With the crappy night’s sleep (in bed at 12:00, asleep at 2:30, saw the clock again at 4:30, tossed till 6:30) I’m in a crappy mood. So here’s what was going through my head last night. Why the heck do the cars/trucks with the noisiest exhausts have to drive by my house at 1 or 2 o’clock in the morning? And the Boom cars omg the boom cars. Have they been reading my blog and know I’m going to have a hard time sleeping? Are the sleep gods sending text messages to these people suggesting they gun the gas when they drive by instead of actually slowing down to the speed limit? Do people put signs out at night, semis please use alternate route down this street, she’s trying to sleep? Then there’s the flight for life helicopter making trips to the local hospital. Well, usually it’s making trips, last night I swear it was hovering over my house. You’d think the helicopter fuel would be too expensive to sit and hover, overlooking the area. Or was it circling like a vulture, waiting for me to gasp my last breath and swoop in? Sorry fellas, not tonight. I’ll let you know when the timing is more convenient. Till then I’ll keep you on speed dial. And next time you fly by can you get a little altitude? Is it necessary to skim the tree tops right outside my window? I have the flares and speed dial ready, you won’t miss me. If the flare comes too close to you I’m sorry, unless you’re doing the low altitude hover again, then it’s a toss up as to what my intentions are, you never know what’s going through a sleep deprived brain at 2:00 in the morning. I figure the next step is to further injure my back/shoulder and end up in the hospital, have one of those nurses bring me drugs every four hours and keep me sleeping like a baby.

Monday, August 29, 2011

Jobs

I don't understand. They say people are having a hard time finding jobs that there isn't jobs to be found. Yet, when I go look there are TONS of job listings. I was looking at State of Indiana, Cities of Fort Wayne and Indianapolis, federal job and the job listings went on and on. I didn't even hit the private sector. Where are these people looking for jobs? I will grant you that the pay may not be up to what you use to make back when Reagan was in office but a job is a job right? Hypothetically, if I were to lose my job today, for one, I can live on unemployment without much problems (just means no more shoes for me), two I am pretty sure I can pick up a waitressing/bartending job somewhere (use to make great money just no bennies) and three I would be sending out my resume until every HR department knew my name. I don't know, I never had a problem finding a job. Work is work and yes, there are times when you aren't working at your dream job or even a job that you are proud to say you are working at your age (waitressing). So I ask again, why is the unemployment rate so high? Where are these unemployed people looking to find jobs? Are they even looking? Are their skills so specialized that jobs that fit them aren't there? Maybe you should apply for jobs that aren't in your normal skilled trade. I mean if you aren't working is waitressing or flipping burgers really that shameful? At least you are working. I'm just saying.

Saturday, August 27, 2011

issues

I am getting more and more irritated by the minute. I wish people around me could get over their own inconsequential lives and stop bringing their negativity into the lives of others. I am beyond the point where I can offer empty consolation and sugar-coated words just to seem 'nice'. I am tired of people who sulk around all day thinking about their own humongously huge issues and 'problems' and spoil life for EVERY body. Just suck it in and do what you have to do; THAT is where the strength lies, not in pretending defiance at the mere hint of another trying to make light the situation, which they probably are doing to make YOU feel better and realize how infinitesimal and pointless your humongous 'issues' are.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Male or Female?

A Spanish teacher was explaining to her class that in Spanish, unlike English, nouns are designated as either masculine or feminine.

''House'' for instance, is feminine: ''la casa.''

''Pencil,'' however, is masculine: "el lapiz.''

A student asked, ''What gender is 'computer'?''

Instead of giving the answer, the teacher split the class into two groups, male and female, and asked them to decide for themselves whether ''computer'' should be a masculine or a feminine noun.

Each group was asked to give four reasons for its recommendation.

The men's group decided that "computer" should definitely be of the feminine gender (''la computadora''), because:

1. No one but their creator understands their internal logic;

2. The native language they use to communicate with other computers is incomprehensible to everyone else;

3. Even the smallest mistakes are stored in long term memory for possible later retrieval; and

4. As soon as you make a commitment to one, you find yourself spending half your paycheck on accessories for it.

The women's group, however, concluded that computers should be Masculine (''el computador''), because:

1. In order to do anything with them, you have to turn them on;

2. They have a lot of data but still can't think for themselves;

3. They are supposed to help you solve problems, but half the time they ARE the problem; and

4. As soon as you commit to one, you realize that if you had waited a little longer, you could have gotten a better model.

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Its not just about me:

I think that we as humans sometimes forget how small we are in the grand scheme of things. We get so involved in our lives, in our affairs, in our plans, that we forget that those things are just OUR plans. Usually something that is important to me is probably not even a blip on the radar to someone else. Some people have a voice that screams to them that they alone inhabit the world and the rest of us are merely players in some invisible soap opera. It doesn’t occur to them that each living breathing person that they know has their own little life full of their own problems (often more real than theirs) and that we for the most part spend our days focused on the things that are important to US, not on any of the things that are important to them.

As of today there are around seven BILLION people in the world (give or take a few). I can’t even fathom that many people- SEVEN BILLION. 7,000,000,000.

That’s seven billion people, all of whom have their own problems and hopes and dreams. All of whom laughed at something today, or cried at something today. All of whom will lay awake tonight worried about something, excited about something, devastated about something.

It’s not always about just us, and we are foolish to think that life revolves around us. We are but specks on the earth. This is not to say we shouldn’t live life to the fullest, quite the opposite. But we have a responsibility to our fellow humans (and the people we claim to care about) to step back once in a while and look at the world as a whole, not just at ourselves.

It’s a great big world out there.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

GENERATIONS

People born before 1946 were called The Silent Generation..

The Baby Boomers are those born between 1947 and 1959.
Generation X people have been born between 1960 and 1979.

Generation Y were born between 1980 and 2010.
Why do we call the last group Generation Y ?

Y should I get a job ?
Y should I leave home and find my own place ?
Y should I get a car when I can borrow yours ?
Y should I clean my room ?
Y should I wash my own clothes ?
Y should I buy any food ?
A cartoonist explained it very eloquently below....

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There is a lot of truth to this..

Monday, August 22, 2011

Ponderables


If you take a person from the Far East and spin him around several times, does he become disoriented?
If people from Poland are called Poles, why aren't people from Holland called Holes?
Why do we say something is out of whack? What's a whack?
Why are a wise man and a wise guy opposites?
When someone asks you, "A penny for your thoughts", and you put your two cents in, what happens to the other penny?
Why is the man who invests all your money called a Broker?
Why do croutons come in airtight packages? It's just stale bread to begin with.
When cheese gets it's picture taken, what does it say?
Why is a person who plays the piano called a pianist but a person who drives a race car not called a racist?


Have a Great day! LIVE LAUGH LOVE and may it be filled with JOY!

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Friday, August 19, 2011

Here are some of Dilbert's one liners:


1. I say no to alcohol, it just doesn't listen.
2. A friend in need is a pest indeed.
3. Try & try, if you don't succeed, then CHEAT
4. Work is fine if it doesn't take too much of your time.
5. When everything comes in your way you're in the wrong lane.
6. The light at the end of the tunnel may be an incoming train..
7. Born free, taxed to death.
8. Everyone has a photographic memory, some just don't have film.
9. Life is unsure; always eat your dessert first.
10. Smile, it makes people wonder what you are thinking.
12. It's not hard to meet expenses, they are everywhere.
13. I love being a writer... what I can't stand is the paperwork.
14. A printer consists of 3 main parts: the case, the jammed paper tray and the blinking red light.
15. The guy who invented the first wheel was an idiot. The guy who invented the other three, he was the genius.
16. The trouble with being punctual is that no one is there to appreciate it.
17. In a country of free speech, why are there phone bills?
18. If you cannot change your mind, are you sure you have one?
19. Beat the 5 O'clock rush, leave work at noon!
20. If you can't convince them, confuse them.
21. It's not the fall that kills you. It's the sudden stop at the end.
22. I couldn't repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder.
23. Hot glass looks same as cold glass. - Cunino's Law of Burnt Fingers
24. Someday is not a day of the week
25. Whenever I find the key to success, someone changes the lock.
26.. To Err is human, to forgive is not a Company policy.
27. The road to success.... Is always under construction..

28. Alcohol doesn't solve any problems, but if you think again, neither does Milk.

29. In order to get a Loan, you first need to prove that you don't need it.
and here's the best of the lot

30. All the desirable things in life are either illegal, expensive, fattening, or in love with someone else.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

5 Riddles

Put your thinking caps on for these 5 Riddles.

THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST FIVE RIDDLES I HAVE SEEN....THE ANSWERS ARE AT THE BOTTOM. RIDDLE #5 IS AMAZING. IT SHARPENS THOSE GENES IN YOUR BRAIN AND STALLS ALZHEIMER'S FOR YEARS!!

The 5 Riddles....

1. A murderer is condemned to death. He has to choose between three rooms. The first is full of raging fires, the second is full of assassins with loaded guns, and the third is full of lions that haven't eaten in 3 years. Which room is safest for him?

2. A woman shoots her husband. Then she holds him under water for over 5 minutes. Finally, she hangs him. But 5 minutes later they both go out together and enjoy a wonderful dinner together. How can this be?

3. What is black when you buy it, red when you use it, and gray when you throw it away?

4. Can you name three consecutive days without using the words Wednesday, Friday, or Sunday?

5. This is an unusual paragraph. I'm curious as to just how quickly you can find out what is so unusual about it. It looks so ordinary and plain that you would think nothing was wrong with it. In fact, nothing is wrong with it! It is highly unusual though. Study it and think about it, but you still may not find anything odd. But if you work at it a bit, you might find out. Try to do so without any coaching!

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THE ANSWERS TO ALL FIVE THE RIDDLES ARE BELOW:

1. The third room. Lions that haven't eaten in three years are dead.

That one was easy, right?

2. The woman was a photographer. She shot a picture of her husband, developed it, and hung it up to dry (shot; held under water; and hung).

3. Charcoal, as it is used in barbecuing.

4. Sure you can name three consecutive days, yesterday, today, and tomorrow!

5. The letter e, which is the most common letter used in the English language, does not appear even once in the paragraph.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Always Right

Do you always have to be right? always have to have the last word? is it your ego? passive aggressive behavior? or some other reason you are unaware of? I know I am wrong more than I am right but I have no trouble admitting that. Why do you have to be right? Why do I find it necessary to defend my position? Why do we get all in a snit about stuff that really for the most part doesn’t even matter to us? I will tell you, that companies go out of business because owners or managers need to be right. Fifty percent of divorces take place because people have to be right. Customers leave a business because they feel like they were made to feel wrong conscious or otherwise. Negotiations break down because people have to be right. People are not happy as they travel through life because they feel they are not right enough. Why? Is it all in the name of power? Control? Or some other emotional need? I don't really know. I do know that I don't like to be around people who always make me feel wrong. Your decisions, opinions or views are for you and you alone. No one else has to accept them, agree with them or like them. And if they don't that's just fine too. Ask yourself, who in my life am I trying to manipulate, change or invalidate by being right? You have a choice in life you can be right or you can be happy. I am learning that you can't be both.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Quotes


1. When Snake is alive, Snake eats Ants.
When Snake is dead, Ants eat Snake.
Time can turn at any time.
Don't neglect anyone in your life........ ...

2. Never make the same mistake twice,
There are so many new ones,
Try a different one each day.

3. A good way to change someone's attitude is to change our own.
Because, the same sun melts butter, also hardens clay!
Life is as we think, so think beautifully.

4. Life is just like a sea, we are moving without end.
Nothing stays with us,
what remain is just the memories of some people who touched us as Waves.

5. Whenever you want to know how rich you are?
Never count your currency,
just try to Drop a Tear and count how many hands reach out to WIPE that- that is true richness.

6. Heart tells the eyes see less, because you see and I suffer lot.
Eyes replied, feel less because you feel and I cry a lot.

7. Never change your originality for the sake of others,
because no one can play your role better than you.
So be yourself, because whatever you are, YOU are the best.

8. Baby mosquito came back after 1st time flying.
His dad asked him "How do you feel?"
He replied "It was wonderful, Everyone was clapping for me!"
Now that's what I call Positive Attitude

(from an email)

Monday, August 15, 2011

Mensa Invitational ( may offend some readers)

The Washington Post's Mensa Invitational once again invited readers to take any word from the dictionary, alter it by adding, subtracting, or changing one letter, and supply a new definition.

The Winners:

1. Cashtration (n.): The act of buying a house, which renders the subject financially impotent for an indefinite period of time.

2. Ignoranus: A person who's both stupid and an asshole.

3. Intaxication: Euphoria at getting a tax refund, which lasts until you realize it was your money to start with.

4. Reintarnation: Coming back to life as a hillbilly.

5. Bozone ( n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer, unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future.

6. Foreploy: Any misrepresentation about yourself for the purpose of getting laid.

7. Giraffiti: Vandalism spray-painted very, very high.

8. Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.

9. Inoculatte: To take coffee intravenously when you are running late.

10. Osteopornosis: A degenerate disease. (This one got extra credit.)

11. Karmageddon: It's like, when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes, right? And then, like, the Earth explodes and it's like, a serious bummer.

12. Decafalon (n.): The grueling event of getting through the day consuming only things that are good for you.

13. Glibido: All talk and no action.

14. Dopeler Effect: The tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly.

15. Arachnoleptic Fit (n.): The frantic dance performed just after you've accidentally walked through a spider web.

16. Beelzebug (n.): Satan in the form of a mosquito, that gets into your bedroom at three in the morning and cannot be cast out.

17. Caterpallor ( n.): The color you turn after finding half a worm in the fruit you're eating.

The Washington Post has also published the winning submissions to its yearly contest, in which readers are asked to supply alternate meanings for common words:

The Winners:

1. Coffee, n. The person upon whom one coughs.

2. Flabbergasted, adj. Appalled by discovering how much weight one has gained.

3. Abdicate, v. To give up all hope of ever having a flat stomach.

4. Esplanade, v. To attempt an explanation while drunk.

5. Willy-nilly, adj. Impotent.

6. Negligent, adj. Absentmindedly answering the door when wearing only a nightgown.

7. Lymph, v. To walk with a lisp.

8. Gargoyle, n. Olive-flavored mouthwash.

9. Flatulence, n. Emergency vehicle that picks up someone who has been run over by a steamroller.

10. Balderdash, n. A rapidly receding hairline.

11. Testicle, n. A humorous question on an exam.

12. Rectitude, n. The formal, dignified bearing adopted by proctologists.

13. Pokemon, n. A Rastafarian proctologist.

14. Oyster, n. A person who sprinkles his conversation with Yiddishisms.

15. Frisbeetarianism, n. The belief that, after death, the soul flies up onto the roof and gets stuck there.

(from an email)

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Food for Thought

  1. I used to eat a lot of natural foods; until I learned most people die from natural causes.
  2. There are two kinds of pedestrians; the quick and the dead.
  3. Life is sexually transmitted.
  4. Healthy is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.
  5. The only difference between a rut and a groove is the depth.
  6. Health nuts are going to feel stupid one day laying in the hospital dying of nothing.
  7. Have you noticed since every one has a digital camera these days no one talks about seeing UFO’s like they used to.
  8. When ever I feel blue I start breathing again.
  9. All of us could take a lesson from the weather; it pays no attention to criticism.
  10. In the 60’s people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird and people take Prozac to make it normal.
  11. How is it one match can start a forest fire and it takes a whole box to light a camp fire?
  12. Who was the first person to look at a cow and say “I think I will squeeze these dangly things and drink whatever comes out?”
  13. If Jimmy cracks corn and no one cares why is there a song about him?
  14. Why does your OB-GYN leave the room when you get undressed if they are going to look up there anyway?
  15. If quizzes are quizzical what are tests?
  16. If corn oil is make from corn and vegetable oil is made from vegetables, what is baby oil made from?
  17. Do Illiterate people get the full effect of alphabet soup?
  18. Does pushing the elevator button more than once make it arrive faster?
  19. Why doesn’t glue stick to the inside of the bottle?
(From an email)

Friday, August 12, 2011

Flat wore out

Yesterday I was so tired, I didn't think I would make it through the day. In fact I was in bed early last night and went fast asleep and slept all night. I feel better today, but makes me wonder if it is old age that is creeping up with me and I cant keep up the pace I used to or if there is something wrong with me. I would think that if you never slow down your body would never know anything different. I hate feeling tired all the time. You sure don't get much done when you feel that way.
It has been a long time since I have gotten up in the morning, and felt like I had the world by the tail and I was going to take it on and win. Most mornings lately, I get out of bed and manage to get done just what I have to do. I hate hate hate feeling like that. I really think this feeling has been exaggerated by my breathing problems and lack of oxygen. I don't know, maybe I am just imagining things. I basically feel good, just tired, so I seldom think about it much anymore, I just do what I can. I am hoping that as autumn arrives, some of my P&V will return.

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Good morning

Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought... UGH.... "I don't like myself today." Well, when you have COPD that may happen quite often to you.
I woke up this morning, looked in the mirror and decided... "I don't like myself today." You may ask "WHY", what does COPD have to do with "not liking yourself?"
Before I was diagnosed with COPD, I weighed in at a comfortable 135 lbs., my height 5'8" (not too bad), now I have gone way beyond that. The worst part is the barrel effect it has on our bodies and the steroids that we have to take.
My clothes do not fit the same way anymore. So you see... some days... "I just don't like myself" hopefully... "tomorrow I will like me again."
I have included an excerpt from an interesting article about COPD explaining about the barrel chest effect for those of you who do not know about it. After the underlined article are some of my restrictions. I have no idea why this is so heavy on my mind lately. Soon I will be back to a my cheerful self.

Typically patients with emphysema will have a very distinct "barrel chest." This is due to the problem with the lungs being in constant state of hyper expansion. The normal negative pressure required for inspiration and the positive pressure required for expiration is lost as the lungs are in a constant state of inflation. Therefore, expiration becomes an active task, increasing the work of breathing. The "barrel chest" is directly related to the ribs as they become fixed in the inspiratory position combined with the loss of elastic recoil of the lungs. Dorsal kyphosis, prominent anterior chest and elevated ribs will contribute to this appearance.

LIVING WITH COPD IS VERY RESTRICTIVE
It means I have to avoid strong odors, smoke, flowers, perfumes, cleaning agents, paints, solvents, vehicle exhaust, shaving lotion, bath powders, incense.
I also have to avoid temperature extremes or wind, crowds, molds, and dusty places because they make me short of breath.
PHYSICALLY:
Living with COPD can mean having difficulty walking up stairs or inclines, not walking very far, being unable to rush or "being rushed", tiring easily--especially if things last too long, being unable to tolerate tight clothing and inability to talk for any length of time.
SOCIALLY:
Living with COPD can mean coughing in public which attracts attention and embarrasses me, having to use or wear devices or equipment, or take medication which invites public comment (oxygen, cold weather masks, inhalers), being concerned (often excessively) about contact with cold or flu germs, having my friends make short, pleasant, smoke-less visits.
EMOTIONALLY:
Living with COPD can mean crying easily, angering easily, becoming frustrated and impatient because I can't do the things I used to do. Feeling resentful when others tell me, "You don't look sick." It can cause me to be panicky and tense, and becoming dependent and demanding because it's frightening when I can't breathe.
COPD AFFECTS MY FAMILY....
By having to adapt to my physical, emotional, social and environmental needs and limitations, often having to leave social functions earlier than they wish because of me or sometimes never getting there and by having to check out all of the details in advance, getting places early and all the while having to remain calm and reassuring at all times on my account.

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

I don't know .....

if it's in the stars or what.....but this picture describes pretty much how I feel about now. It seems like every time I turn around I'm spending money for necessary things that have to be done.
Last week I had a couple boys here to clear off my river bank. They did a fantastic job. It is so nice to look out and see the river instead of weeds and river birches. Next I had my house cleaned, it is my one luxury I treat myself too, but it costs money. On Sunday my friend mentioned to me that one of my old maple trees has a pretty big limb just hanging about 40 feet from the ground. I had my boys take a look at it to see if I will need to get a tree trimmer in here to cut it out. Now since we had that wonderful rain soon my grass will need cut. The electronic ignitor in my oven quit working and I had to get it repaired. My little fan that I keep in the kitchen went out and I had to replace it during the hottest days of summer.....you know I paid an inflated price for the replacement, but I needed it. It just seems like a bunch of little things....a ripped screen, a broken downspout, a back door that will no longer close properly and lock.....just a bunch of "irritants" and all of them mean money flying out the window.
I hope the fates start feeling sorry for me and gave me a small something to keep my spirits up. Sigh.....win some, lose some.
And how is YOUR summer going? Just remember to keep smilin'.....it keeps people confused and off-guard, if nothing else. LOL

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Monday, August 8, 2011

A Glass of Water

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half full?'...
She fooled them all ... "How heavy is this glass of water?" she inquired with a smile.
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. To 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter.
It depends on how long I hold it.
If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.
If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance.
In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Pick them up tomorrow."

(from an email)

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Arachnophobia

So I was out watering my tomato plants and watching the river go by, when I felt that creepy feeling that I was not alone. It felt like someone or something was watching me. I looked around and found this staring at me:* doctor_spider yep this guy. I love sharing my yard with all God’s creatures, but I wish this guy would do his thing far away from here. I nudged him in the butt with a stick to try to move him along. He stood his ground, not moving even one of his 8 legs. Watering near him seemed to make him even more stubborn. I was afraid to look away for fear he would leap thru the air and bite me, which would cause me to have heart failure and die on the spot. I was ticking off my options and turned my back for a mere nano second and when I turned back around he was gone. OMG Total Panic. Where did he go? Was he on my head? Did he run up my leg? Or was he just hiding nearby and laughing at me? He is probably still out there lying in wait and enjoying my anxiety while waiting to make his next surprise appearance.

*( not the actual spider)

Friday, August 5, 2011

5 things Not to say to someone quitting smoking




1. "You're going to get lung cancer." Yes, it's true, smoking causes cancer, emphysema, and all sorts of other problems. But smokers have heard these arguments so often that they're like the annoying buzz of a mosquito."The health risks of smoking aren't news to anyone; smokers have heard it all before," "All they do is block you out or say whatever they think will shut you up."

2. "If you loved me, you'd quit." As with any addiction, guilt doesn't work, experts say, because if the smoker believed he could quit, he would. All it does is make him feel guilty and bad about himself -- and angry at you for making him feel crummy.

3. "Smoking is disgusting. I don't know why you don't quit." Making a smoker feel bad about smoking is counterproductive because he feels that way already but can't admit it to himself. You'll just drive a wedge between you both, when the message you want to give is that you're on his side. Besides, you probably do know why he doesn't quit: He thinks he can't. Replace those negative comments with neutral or positive ones. You might start by asking, "How can I support you in getting healthier?" Follow that with encouragement focused on whatever goals the smoker has chosen as his motivation.

4."Look at you: you get out of breath so easily." Instead of pointing out the smoker's shortness of breath, take a sneakier approach. Together with your smoking partner, take up an activity, such as golf or ballroom dancing, that requires healthy lungs. Make getting healthy a joint project, and let your loved one figure out that smoking is getting in the way. Your point will be made for you.


5. "Do you want your grandchildren to see you smoking?" While smokers talk a good game, typically insisting that they're happy with their identity as smokers, deep down they're ashamed of their dependence. Shaming them doesn't work because they're there already. Much more effective is to take the opposite approach, helping the smoker envision how proud he would feel if he were able to stop smoking: "You're going to be a wonderful example for the grandchildren when you quit."

I would urge everyone to quit.. you do not want to live as I do. This heat has kept me inside for over a month now. Just opening the door to pick up the morning paper saps my energy. This has been on my heart since the beginning of this heat wave. If you are a smoker, Please consider quitting.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Truths


Did you know that those who appear to be really strong... really are the most sensitive. ...Did you know that those who spend all their time protecting and helping others.... sometimes really need someone to protect and be there for them. ... Did you know that three of the hardest things to say are... I love you, I am sorry and Help me.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

I hate it

  1. I hate it when people tailgate me because I'm driving the speed limit. That happened to me today, and it was so annoying. Forgive me for actually obeying the law.
  2. I hate it when people poke me to get my attention.
  3. I hate it when when people twist the conversation back around to themselves. They don't seem to care about anyone else. The HAVE TO be the center of attention.
  4. I hate it when people hang up with out saying good bye.
  5. I hate it when people claim to know it all or they've been there done that in every conversation. I call them one-uppers.
  6. I hate it when there are long wait in the doctors office. Don't tell me to be there at 1;30 and take me in at 2:30, put me in a little room where I sit for another half hour.
  7. I hate it when people are professional protesters: don't these people have jobs to go to? All they do is march in circles and chant! For 40 years I have listened to "The world isn't perfect." Enough already!
  8. I hate it when people are environmental nuts: Yes, I like clean air and water too. Who doesn't? But, is there anything we do that meets your approval, and if so, what? I would like to do it before you find something wrong with it!
  9. I hate it when the green light you're coming up to turns red, for nobody. As you sit, you wait through two separate left turn arrows, for nobody. You sit at your own light's left turn arrow, for nobody. After all that waiting for nobody, you get to go.
  10. I hate it when people do not pull over for emergency vehicles, who don't stop for funeral processions, and who inflict their loud music upon everyone else.

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

The hardest thing to do is...

to not be cynical when you have all the reasons to be.

to look for the silver lining in the cloud when all you see is endless stretch of darkness.

to smile when things go wrong and to say - Yeah S**t happens!

to try to find the positive side of all negative outcomes.

to not believe when others try to drive home the point that you are a loser.

to not blame others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations.

Monday, August 1, 2011

Change

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snow

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Thought we all could use a change.