Is it possible to be both angry and respectful at the same time?
When feeling angry it is natural to say whatever immediately
comes to
mind. And then of course, apologize, explain the reason for the anger, and
realize some words might have been said that were not really meant.
Oops…
Usually, a person begins to feel angry when he/she is experiencing some
sort of emotional or physical pain/discomfort. Or when there is a perceived
annoyance; Or when a need is not getting met. Or when there has been a perceived
injustice.
There are a variety of situations that can trigger the emotion of
anger. Some of them are justified, some are not. Lashing out with blame,
arguing, defensiveness, and accusations will certainly lead to another feeling –
a feeling of being attacked. And so goes the possible escalation of anger. As
anger escalates, if it has nowhere to go, it could lead to physical fighting,
assault, or battery. Actually, there is no need to ever let anger get that
far
out of control. There really is a more respectful way to express anger
without ever allowing it to escalate.
2 comments:
MsN:
What what I've learned, anger is one of those emotions we don't really need, BUT have to have in order to undertsand others AND ourselves.
Naturally, this is not to say that ALL anger is good...we know that's false.
Like Franklin used to remind us...EVERYTHING in moderation, and that can even inlcude negative emotions.
It's when anger gets the BEST of us do people perform rash and often criminal acts.
The ability to learn to CHANNEL your anger to create something positive (and alleviate the anger itself along the way) becomes the challenge.
Very good post.
Stay safe down there.
There sure is- beat up your trash can!
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