Arachnophobia

So I was out watering my tomato plants and watching the river go by, when I felt that creepy feeling that I was not alone. It felt like someone or something was watching me. I looked around and found this staring at me:* yep this guy. I love sharing my yard with all God’s creatures, but I wish this guy would do his thing far away from here. I nudged him in the butt with a stick to try to move him along. He stood his ground, not moving even one of his 8 legs. Watering near him seemed to make him even more stubborn. I was afraid to look away for fear he would leap thru the air and bite me, which would cause me to have heart failure and die on the spot. I was ticking off my options and turned my back for a mere nano second and when I turned back around he was gone. OMG Total Panic. Where did he go? Was he on my head? Did he run up my leg? Or was he just hiding nearby and laughing at me? He is probably still out there lying in wait and enjoying my anxiety while waiting to make his next surprise appearance.

*( not the actual spider)

5 things Not to say to someone quitting smoking

1. "You're going to get lung cancer." Yes, it's true, smoking causes cancer, emphysema, and all sorts of other problems. But smokers have heard these arguments so often that they're like the annoying buzz of a mosquito."The health risks of smoking aren't news to anyone; smokers have heard it all before," "All they do is block you out or say whatever they think will shut you up."

2. "If you loved me, you'd quit." As with any addiction, guilt doesn't work, experts say, because if the smoker believed he could quit, he would. All it does is make him feel guilty and bad about himself -- and angry at you for making him feel crummy.

3. "Smoking is disgusting. I don't know why you don't quit." Making a smoker feel bad about smoking is counterproductive because he feels that way already but can't admit it to himself. You'll just drive a wedge between you both, when the message you want to give is that you're on his side. Besides, you probably do know why he doesn't quit: He thinks he can't. Replace those negative comments with neutral or positive ones. You might start by asking, "How can I support you in getting healthier?" Follow that with encouragement focused on whatever goals the smoker has chosen as his motivation.

4."Look at you: you get out of breath so easily." Instead of pointing out the smoker's shortness of breath, take a sneakier approach. Together with your smoking partner, take up an activity, such as golf or ballroom dancing, that requires healthy lungs. Make getting healthy a joint project, and let your loved one figure out that smoking is getting in the way. Your point will be made for you.

5. "Do you want your grandchildren to see you smoking?" While smokers talk a good game, typically insisting that they're happy with their identity as smokers, deep down they're ashamed of their dependence. Shaming them doesn't work because they're there already. Much more effective is to take the opposite approach, helping the smoker envision how proud he would feel if he were able to stop smoking: "You're going to be a wonderful example for the grandchildren when you quit."

I would urge everyone to quit.. you do not want to live as I do. This heat has kept me inside for over a month now. Just opening the door to pick up the morning paper saps my energy. This has been on my heart since the beginning of this heat wave. If you are a smoker, Please consider quitting.

Truths

Did you know that those who appear to be really strong... really are the most sensitive. ...Did you know that those who spend all their time protecting and helping others.... sometimes really need someone to protect and be there for them. ... Did you know that three of the hardest things to say are... I love you, I am sorry and Help me.

I hate it

1. I hate it when people tailgate me because I'm driving the speed limit. That happened to me today, and it was so annoying. Forgive me for actually obeying the law.
2. I hate it when people poke me to get my attention.
3. I hate it when when people twist the conversation back around to themselves. They don't seem to care about anyone else. The HAVE TO be the center of attention.
4. I hate it when people hang up with out saying good bye.
5. I hate it when people claim to know it all or they've been there done that in every conversation. I call them one-uppers.
6. I hate it when there are long wait in the doctors office. Don't tell me to be there at 1;30 and take me in at 2:30, put me in a little room where I sit for another half hour.
7. I hate it when people are professional protesters: don't these people have jobs to go to? All they do is march in circles and chant! For 40 years I have listened to "The world isn't perfect." Enough already!
8. I hate it when people are environmental nuts: Yes, I like clean air and water too. Who doesn't? But, is there anything we do that meets your approval, and if so, what? I would like to do it before you find something wrong with it!
9. I hate it when the green light you're coming up to turns red, for nobody. As you sit, you wait through two separate left turn arrows, for nobody. You sit at your own light's left turn arrow, for nobody. After all that waiting for nobody, you get to go.
10. I hate it when people do not pull over for emergency vehicles, who don't stop for funeral processions, and who inflict their loud music upon everyone else.

The hardest thing to do is...

to not be cynical when you have all the reasons to be.

to look for the silver lining in the cloud when all you see is endless stretch of darkness.

to smile when things go wrong and to say - Yeah S**t happens!

to try to find the positive side of all negative outcomes.

to not believe when others try to drive home the point that you are a loser.

to not blame others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations.

Change

Thought we all could use a change.