Friday, September 3, 2010

Arguments

Just thinking out loud here. Why do people like politics and political discussions? Why do folks like to argue in the first place? It seems so unpleasant.
I am so adverse to arguments.. I feel myself tremble and shake inside when arguments start. I do not like them, Sam I am. I really don't.. and I've even participated in a few, still don't like them.
In many ways, I'd just prefer to lie down and rollover(.. rub my belly please) than have an argument. This probably costs me a lot, and I've gotten better over time in standing up for myself, but I'm still very non confrontational.
I wonder if this aversion came from my strict upbringing where I wasn't allowed to cry. Well I did cry, but I can remember being told "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" and trying so hard to swallow the tears and it hurt my throat so bad.
I don't know. I do know I've tried to never use that phrase with my kids. I probably failed and did use it a time or two, but not as much as it was used on me.
All this is to say that I have views about things that I won't express because I don't want the arguments. And people who enjoy politics and arguments perplex me.
Just because I'm silent, doesn't mean I agree with you.

1 comment:

Bob G. said...

MSN:
I used to be SO introverted that I ran from ANY arguments...
Luckily I joined the dramatics club and choir in high school, and found out I really DO have a voice.
(was told it was baritone)

Trouble with that, is that now I've got so dang much that needs saying...LOL
(see what THEY started?)

As I get older, I will never allow anyone to stencil the word WELCOME on my forehead.
I am nobody's doormat.

I enjoy DEBATE, but arguing usually is never productive to either party involved.

I much prefer to listen to the other person, state MY facts, wait for any rebuttal, then call it done.

My Dad always said that if you're plannin' to mouth off, you'd best be able to back it up.

He was so right.

Have a great weekend, and thanks for firing up my brain today with this post.