The term “mind games” refers to passive aggressive behavior used specifically to demoralize or empower the thinking subject, often making the aggressor look superior. Passive aggressive behavior happens when the person avoids responsibility and attempts to control others to keep them away through his passivity and withdrawal. It is a dynamic born of fear of being controlled, fear of confrontation, hidden anger and an inability to deal straight with people.
We all do this some of the time. That is normal. It is when it causes severe issues for others that it becomes an problem.
Why do people play mind games? I think it is the same reason a cat plays with a mouse before they go for the kill. To see them squirm. And squirm they do. People who are vulnerable are often the target of these sadistic game. These “mind gamers” have some demented sick streak inside them motivates them to be intentionally cruel. Perhaps they have had something similar done to them and are doing some payback. People who intentionally hurt you need to be eliminated from your life. Do not give them another chance thinking they will change. They do change, they get worse. This is extremely hard to deal with.
1 comment:
MSN:
This a really good post.
YOu have expressed the nuts & bolts of what mind games are very well.
Such people cannot differentiate between many aspects in their lives.
They all run together, and most often contrary to normal social standards.
The best way to deal with ANY of this is to deny them any opportunity to play with YOUR mind.
It's not easy, but it DOES work.
(they have such a low frustration quotient)
Stay safe (and warm) down there.
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